The Future - a Gift of the Present
Envision your future full of promise… What you cherish most about today could help you fulfill your dreams for tomorrow.
Acknowledging that you have many things to be grateful for in the present can give you hopefulness about your future. Think about the power of positive words. Think about how much easier things are if they are truly desired…if you are committed, challenged and feel a sense of control. Understand that your future comes from the thoughts you have today.
Think about the clarity and determination you would have if you realized that your future is a gift of the way you live in the present moment. Seeing the world that you live in as abundant and having a positive view can fill your present with joy and satisfaction. Imagine feeling a sense of peace and balance.
So recognize that today is a treasure chest that you open to reap the riches of the future. Know that in this moment you can create the vision and realization of your life’s desire by taking charge of the thoughts you have today.
“And in today already walks tomorrow.” ~Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Don’t Find a Fault…Find a Remedy
“Don’t find a fault…find a remedy” was posted for all to read on a local restaurant’s billboard as I drove by the other day. It amazes me when these types of messages “appear”. This one in particular really “spoke” to me and I felt compelled to post about this message and what it meant to me.
Have you ever been a participant in a finger pointing match? Or have you worked hard on a project and had someone point out all the flaws even though the majority of the project was a success?
Finding fault is a habit of self-importance, superiority and control. It is negative, to say the least, and may have long-term consequences in our relationships with those that we work with, are friends with or are related to.
In fact, most often when things don’t go 100% right, the person involved has already probably made their own list. So why would you want to bring them down when you could lift them up?
Wouldn’t this be a different world if there were no failures and only lessons learned? So I challenge you to only have positive uplifting words come out of your mouth this next week. Just see how different you will feel and how different those around you will feel. By lifting someone else up you will also be lighter.
Living the Agreements…Your New Dream
You can live the life of your dreams….it might just take some work on your part.
Imagine the life you want to live. Take a few minutes to close your eyes and answer the question “What will make me happy?” Now you can choose to make that a reality. Life can become easier if you are living the life you love. As Don Miguel Ruiz states in his book The Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) “Maybe we cannot escape from the destiny of the human, but we have a choice: to suffer our destiny or to enjoy our destiny.” Which choice do you make?
“Dreams are illustrations…from the book your soul is writing about you.” ~Marsha Norman
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Change Your Agreements…Change Your Happiness
We all talk about transforming our lives…changing things…living our dreams. So how come you still are unhappy or feel stuck? Are you really free to do what you desire? Are others stopping you or are you stopping yourself? Here’s where I swallow hard, take a deep breath and say you (we) have the choice of not continuing to play the role of victim. Read more
Agreement #4 - Always Do Your Best
The last agreement in the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amer-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) is “always do your best”. This seems like an obvious way to live your life. But how many of us live with self-abuse, self-judgement and regret? Read more
Agreement #3 - Don’t Make Assumptions
Do you assume that those you love should know what you need and desire? We sometimes put unrealistic expectations on our loved ones to know what we want and when we want it. When they don’t - we get upset creating sadness and sometimes drama.
In the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) the third agreement is “don’t assume”. The author says “We only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.” He also states “Because we don’t understand something, we make assumptions about the meaning, and when the truth comes out, the bubble of our dream pops and we find out it was not what we thought it was at all.” This “belief” causes hurt, sadness and upsets. Read more
Agreement #2 - Don’t Take Anything Personally
What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. Don Miguel Ruiz in the book The Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) lists ”dont’ take anything personally” as the second agreement. He states “Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”.” The author sites the need to be right as an underlying cause as well as the need to be accepted. He goes on to say “When you make it a strong habit to not take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life.”
Accepting this agreement means that you can eliminate some of the suffering in your life…anger, fear, jealousy, envy. So choose not to accept “emotional poison”. Know instead that you need to only trust yourself to make responsible choices… you can follow your heart and say yes or no without guilt or self-judgement.
Agreement #1 - Be Impeccable With Your Word
In the book The Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) by Don Miguel Ruiz it lists the first of the agreements as “be impeccable with your word”. The author states “When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.” This statement was very powerful to me.
How many times do we live in fear of the opinions of others or practice self-rejection? Use your word, your energy, in truth and love for yourself first. Also use your words to lift others up. You have a choice about what you do with the opinions of others…believe them or choose your own intention of self-love and sharing that love with others. Choose to be happy and free from negativity.
The Four Agreements
In the book The Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing 1997) Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of happiness. The four agreements are presented as a “code of conduct” that will help change our lives. They are:
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Don’t take anything personally.
- Don’t make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
While reading this book I experienced another “V-8 moment”. WOW! If you lived by this code it could remove fear and suffering from your life. Read more