Agreement #3 - Don’t Make Assumptions
Do you assume that those you love should know what you need and desire? We sometimes put unrealistic expectations on our loved ones to know what we want and when we want it. When they don’t - we get upset creating sadness and sometimes drama.
In the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 1997) the third agreement is “don’t assume”. The author says “We only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.” He also states “Because we don’t understand something, we make assumptions about the meaning, and when the truth comes out, the bubble of our dream pops and we find out it was not what we thought it was at all.” This “belief” causes hurt, sadness and upsets.
Communication is the key to living this “agreement”. If you don’t understand something or want something just ask. You have the right to ask just as everyone has the right to say yes or no. So find the courage to express yourself and ask questions. You will be amazed at how much misunderstanding you can avoid.
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