“Happiness is an inside job.” ~William A. Ward
So many times we look for things or people to make us happy. Recently I re-read parts of the book Worn Out Woman: when life is full and your spirit is empty by Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray (Multnomah® Publishers 2004).
I was struck by the chapter I read on “Shoulds and Oughts”. Are you a people pleaser? I am. Reading this chapter was another aha moment for me because it made me realize that many of us (especially women) were raised to follow the rules and fit within a mold. Now I am not talking about just being nice or accommodating. I am talking about trying to be liked and banking your happiness on others.
We have to realize that happiness comes from within. So ask yourself the question what makes you happy and write it down. Then do one thing this week, today or this holiday season just because it makes YOU happy.
Your health and happiness are more important than temporarily pleasing someone else. What a wonderful gift to give yourself.