“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” ? Paul Coelho
My word for 2021 is “be.” I have been working toward that word now for six months and I am not sure that I can say that I have been successful yet.
As previously shared, I am incredibly good at doing. I have a master list, a weekly list and a daily list which doesn’t necessarily leave time to just be.
Unbecoming or to stop being what no longer serves me seems more doable for me. Because I truly do not want to look up one day and say, “what happened to my life.”
Looking at it from the space of unbecoming asks us to throw off the messaging we receive from our loved ones, our society, our culture, our entertainment, our spiritual communities; all the things that don’t resonate with who we are at our core or that lead us into spiraling busyness. It is a call to release yourself from the idea that you are not enough and/or not doing enough. Freeing yourself can take you to new heights.
I like this approach because it calls me to look at my habits; at my day-to-day routines and evaluate whether they are a help or hindrance to who I want to be. Being in the moment is important for being the person you are meant to be versus focusing our time on the to dos. It is about shifting values. And that takes time. And life is a journey.
My aspiration for 2022 (and beyond) continues and is to simply get on with BEING the person I was meant to be in the first place and to be present.
My new focus will be unbeing or unbecoming and to start eliminating what no longer serves me. Peeling away these layers will allow me to change for the better and relook at the three people I currently am:
- The person I wanted to be
- The person everyone else wanted me to be
- The person I had become