Here are some good tips for all of us to follow to practice self-care this holiday season. Be well.
When stress makes you feel bad, do something that makes you feel good, even if it is only for 10 or 15 minutes. Here is a list of activities. Find one or two that may work for you:
- Phone a friend.
- Meet (virtually) a friend for coffee or a meal.
- Participate in sports activities like golf, tennis, or basketball.
- Play with your kids or pets – outside is preferable.
- Listen to music or watch an inspiring performance.
- Take a walk in nature.
- Take a bike ride.
- Take a relaxing bath.
- Practice yoga or tai chi.
- Work in the garden.
- Do a home improvement project.
- Make art — draw, color, or paint.
- Do a hobby and/or craft such as sewing, jewelry making or woodworking.
- Play a musical instrument.
- Work on a scrapbook or photo album to focus on good memories.
- Read a book, short story or magazine.
The key is to find something or several things that work for you and to make them a regular practice. Doing “feel good” activities as part of your routine help prevent stress and disrupt the stress cycle. You can have power over stress by being proactive and incorporating nourishing and enjoyable activities in your life.
Stress stoppers are actions to help you defuse stress in the moment. You may need different stress stoppers for different situations, and sometimes it helps to combine them. Here are some ideas:
- Count to 10 before you speak or react.
- Take a few slow, deep breaths.
- Pause and allow your body un-clench a bit.
- Go for a walk, even if it is just to the restroom and back.
- Try a quick prayer.
- Turn on some relaxing music.
- Pet the dog or cat.
- Hug a loved one.
- Have a cup of coffee or tea.
Managing stress is important for your health and implementing one or two quick actions in the moment as your stress level is escalating can help you neutralize it.
As previously mention, besides “R” standing for routine, I realized that there was a R2 and R3. I posted about resilience last week and today I wanted to talk about R3 which is relationships.
Relationships are about the conversations we have, connecting with people and being in the moment.
It’s also about the relationship you have with yourself. It’s about being gentle with yourself just as you would be with a friend or family member.
Do you take time to nature or develop your relationships? What relationships are important to you? Take a minute to evaluate the priority these take in your life and if you do not life your answers, make a plan to make a change.
A colleague of mine often says, “You have to sometimes go slow to go fast.” Usually that is in reference to a project we are working on that takes longer or heads in a different direction than the original intent.
But today, I am suggesting that you need to slow down in this hectic world. We move from task to task and experience all this busyness that can crowd out our happiness and well-being. Do not be tempted to speed through life and in the process give up your happiness and joy.
Self-care is an ongoing process and is a way for you to slow down and refill the well. So, rather than pushing through all your reserves choose daily self-care need. Taking time for yourself does not have to be time-consuming or expensive. Here are a few ideas for things you can choose to practice daily:
From one minute to 15 to more, you can pick one thing from the list to fill your well…just slow down and delight in at least one moment each day….