As I was pondering my journey this year of being, I reflected that it has been just as much about “unbecoming.” In other words, it is about turning being inside out, and unpeeling away what no longer serves me (beliefs, expectations, roles, etc.). Without knowing it, we may “hoard” beliefs of who we are supposed to be as readily as we collect things that overflow our home.
To explain, think about a room in your home that you want to redecorate. For it to become a space you want it to be, you need to remove all the things that no longer belong in the room or serve its purpose. It must unbecome the space it used to be. You need to pull out all the stuff and only keep the pieces you choose that will enhance the redecorated space. You need to purge all those things that have been handed down, acquired, or developed that have built up over the years and that have become overwhelming, cluttered, chaotic, and oppressive.
What roles no longer align with your life’s purpose or who you want to be now? Identifying the roles you have taken on that no longer spark passion or speak to you can help you arrive at the destination of just being or being who you really are.
For me, I continue to look at my roles and compare them to the life of my dreams and adjust.