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From Negative to Positive: Reframing Fear

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Fear creates negative self-talk and is often what holds us back from success. If you are fearful of taking chances because you may lose the security that you currently enjoy, you may try to convince yourself that you are happy in your current situation when in fact, you are not. Your self-talk may sound positive in your attempt to lie to yourself. But you know you are limiting yourself. And that fear and your self-talk are holding you back from your dreams.

When changing to positive self-talk, reframe your fears by identifying them. Ask yourself:
• What you are afraid of?
• What can be the worst that can happen?
• Will the worst happen?
• What is the best that can happen?

These tips for breaking down your thoughts to see if there is any way look at things more positively can help you confront your fears. By doing this, you will realize that the worst-case scenario is not as bad as you think or will not likely to happen. In fact, the benefits of change will appear, and you can see that they are worth the effort and risk. And by breaking the fear down in this manner, your inner self-talk changes.

The How: Replace Negative Self-Talk with Positives

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I my previous post, I provided some tips for positive self-talk. I now intend to share some more details or “how tos” to start replacing negatives with positives.

Let’s face it negative thoughts happen. It is hard to be positive ALL the time. Nevertheless, you can replace negative thoughts with the positive ones in any situation. There is always an alternative way to see a situation, and you have an opportunity to choose to find something positive about it.
For example, if you have a goal to achieve a healthy weight, instead of telling yourself not to bother because you have previously gained the weight lost back , change the talk to “I am making healthier choices every day” or “I am successful at maintaining a healthy weight for me”. [Read more…]

Positive Self-Talk

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In my post about my 2020 word, I mentioned negative self-talk which is limiting and sest you up for defeat even before starting.

How do you make the switch to positive self-talk? Here are some tips:

1. Start the day with one affirmation or more.
2. Practice gratitude.
3. Talk to yourself as you would a friend.
4. Eliminate assumptions.
5. Dismiss your inner critic.
6. Throw out the words “I can’t” or “I’ll try”.
7. Understand your fears.
8. Name your feelings.
9. Visualize success.
10. “STOP” the thought by saying “Stop It!”

By using one or more of these tips, my hope is that this year will become one of possibilities, positives and abundance for all of us.

The Word 2020: Abundance

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This year my word came to me relatively easy. Some years it is like that while other years it is more of a journey to get to my selected word. 2020 will be all about the Word abundance. To get started, as always, I looked up the definition at thefreedictionary.com.

a·bun·dance
noun
1. a. A great or plentiful amount: an abundance of rain.
b. The condition of being in rich supply: bananas growing in abundance.
2. a. Degree of plentifulness: “Species of low abundance are ignored in the calculation of predominance” (William M. Lewis).
b. Chemistry The amount of an isotope of an element that exists in nature, usually expressed as a percentage of the total amount of all isotopes of the element.
3. Affluence; prosperity: living in abundance.

As I selected the word, my intention was focusing on the condition of being in rich supply. This could mean opportunities for myself inclusive of all others, enough time to do the things I want to do, and/or resources.

My goal is to remind myself that I need to dispel narrow thinking and restrictive self-talk while embracing all that is available to me especially health, love and joy.

I am looking forward to what 2020 will bring. I am excited for this next chapter.

May 2020 be a year of abundance for you as well.